Family Time as a Commodity During the Summer

Summer is a time to try and cut back on work to take a trip, spend time with my wife and kids or just get away. I think a lot of this has to do with the weather we have in the Midwest - I like getting outside and enjoying time in the sun with my family.

During these summer months and my time away from the office, I try to make individual time with each of my girls (I include my wife in this grouping as well) as I know that each of them are unique and has different interests. I find that having one-on-one time is important to get to know them better and learn what really lights their spark. Too often, I see kids (including my own at times) acting out because they are not getting enough individual attention and are often lumped together rather than being addressed as separate individuals (especially if they have siblings).

How do I combat this? One day at a time! I try and find at least 30 minutes per day when I can give each of my daughters attention (more if possible). I also will spend time with both of them together, playing games, grabbing an ice cream, you name it. What is most important is making sure that there is time available for all of us to spend together and that I am not so busy with work that the kids never see me, especially during times when my work is demanding.

For my eldest, I find that playing sports, getting outdoors, riding bikes or other such activities make her excited. I will walk in the door and she will ask me, “Dad can we go ride bikes?” This differs from my youngest who would much rather have me sit down and read a book with her (yes, they are that different). So as you can tell, it’s important to spend individual time with kids and get to know their likes and dislikes to truly make a difference in the relationship that you are having with them.

So, as you look forward to the rest of your summer, make sure you have some time to take off and be with your family. It is important and they all will appreciate it in the long run, even if they don’t show that appreciation at first! Think about the time as a deposit paid; you are making a deposit in your children that will pay off so many more times forward in the years to come!